Casual to Commit Relationship: 3 Smart Tips to Approach ‘Are we still exclusive?’ Conversation without killing vibe

Dating has taken a casual turn in the contemporary era, which makes rounds such as the situation, nanosip, breadcrumbing, benching and love bombing. What can expect for romantic people, on the contrary, recently dating is a complex mess, anything but straightforward. These are mixed signals, colors (endless debate around red, green and beige flags), and a lot of chemistry. Contingency and non-casual vibes ruled the scene, it is very common for people to talk or see many people at a time. But when dating is exclusive, both individuals only agree to see each other, indicating a change to make some more deliberate and intimate than a casual connection. But find out that ‘are we still exclusive?’ The conversation has left many at the end of his Wits.

Ravi Mittal, the founder and CEO of the Dating App Quacques, shared with HT lifestyle how to make the most dreaded conversation.

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A lot of ‘if’ are going on in your mind about this dreaded conversation, then reminded, “prepare themselves for all possibilities; what can be the worst? Your match says they are not on the same page. It does not mean that they want to finish things. They need a little more time to reach there. Furthermore, it is to clarify your expectations.”

Ravi shared a detailed guide with us, in which the reasons behind the hesitation were outlined and how to see the conversation:

Reasons for

• Fear of ruining flow: In today’s modern dating, Vibes are everything. Everything is going well- chatting, memes are flowing, your game of tampering is at the point, away from the comic chart, but then suddenly, ‘What are we?’ The conversation comes out. We are afraid to ruin a good relationship with all heavy goods.
• fear of rejection: What if you ask if they are ready to go to exclusive, and they say it is not yet time? It becomes strange for the point where Ghosting seems to be a better option than facing them the next day.
• Contradiction of options: Dating apps are considered the best because they offer a lot of options, but, like all good things, also, are its downside. There is always a whisper ‘What if anyone is better?’ It keeps at least 2 of the 8 people in its match at the right time.

How to see the conversation?

1. Ask yourself some simple questions

• Do you feel connected to this person? Are you invested emotionally in them? Does this match feel different from others? Are you ready for commitment?
• The inspiration behind discussing heavy things means more specificity than our thoughts. Once you have clarity on it, it will help you understand that the time is correct.

2. Strike at the right time:

• Once you solve the inspiration, the next step is to find out the right time. It may not be within a week of chatting, nor can you wait until your six -month anniversary.
• Follow the rule of this thumb: Once you are continuously dating for more than a month, with mutual feelings, or at least when the energy feels mutual. For example, you have shared social and phone numbers and already discussed family problems; This means that you are half there. Just shoot the question and see where it goes.

3. Casual but clear intention:

• When you eventually discuss the matter, the tone may not be either very severe or very dramatic, nor can it be extra casual. Just bring it in the way you ask if they think ‘Veg Biriyani should be considered real biriyani or not’.
• Create a fun curiosity instead of pressure. Start with a positive comment on the connection, like, “I really enjoy knowing you. Can’t believe that we’ve been chatting for about 2 months now.” And only then bring the subject with something, “It feels like the right time where it is going,” instead of asking directly, “So,” So, what do you think it’s is going on? ,
• The goal is to open the floor for a discussion and do not sound like an ultimatum.