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Arya and Kabir (fictitious name) were married for five years. The bonding between the two was so deep that people used to cite their example. But for the last few months, Arya was feeling that something had changed in their relationship… something, which she was not able to catch, but was definitely feeling. He himself doesn’t remember when it started. Just one day he noticed that Kabir always keeps his phone locked. Earlier he used to leave his mobile on the bed, but now the phone would remain upside down, notifications would remain switched off and as soon as any call came, he would go to another room. Arya thought many times – “Am I overthinking?” But I felt like not agreeing.
Gradually Kabir’s words also started changing. Earlier he used to share every small and big thing about the office with Arya. But now… “Nothing special”, “I am tired”, “I will tell you later.” These would have been his answers. Arya often felt that he was far away despite being near her. As if the mind is stuck somewhere else. One evening, as soon as he sat down for dinner, he started getting irritable without any reason. There was a little less salt and he started a debate on this matter. Arya understood that the matter was not about salt, something else was troubling her from inside. Often it happens that one gets angry over a small issue, has a rude tone and takes the matter out of proportion. He realized that Kabir himself was entangled in something.
Then Arya noticed a new change that Kabir had suddenly started paying a lot of attention to his looks, which is a good thing but it would have been better if he had also paid attention to Arya. New clothes, new haircut, expensive perfume, more time in the gym… Arya started wondering why all this sudden grooming? She started asking herself all these questions, but was unable to muster the courage to ask. The most painful thing was when Kabir reduced the time he spent with her. Weekend movie, dinner together, evening coffee. All this stopped. Every day the excuse is office work, meetings, client calls and returning home late at night. Arya was understanding everything, but did not want to understand.
One night she gathered courage and asked Kabir if anything was changing between us? Are you talking to someone else? Kabir remained silent for a few moments. There was heavy silence in the room. Arya’s heartbeats were fast. Bending his eyes, Kabir said softly, “I feel the distance between us has increased… I don’t know why… but I am very confused.” That night both of them had a long conversation. Arya expressed her feelings and Kabir also expressed his confusion. Kabir was also changing himself in search of someone else and Arya was seeing her Kabir changing. However, Kabir also realized that he was playing an important role in breaking their relationship. So they decided together that they would give the relationship a chance, talk openly and even seek counseling if needed.
These are 5 points which show that your partner is gradually moving away.
1. The partner suddenly started hiding the phone and changing the password.
2. Conversations and emotional connections may not be the same as before.
3. Started getting angry on small things without any reason.
4. Suddenly start paying more attention to looks and grooming.
5. Reduce time spent together and increase excuses.
(Note- These two names Arya and Kabir are imaginary, but the truth is that there are many people who are trying to strengthen their relationship by remaining calm, do not do this even by mistake and sit with your partner and talk about this.)
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